Helping solve sibling rivalry
Helping solve sibling rivalry

While there will always be arguments between your children, there are ways you can help minimise conflict and unhealthy competition:

  • Understand that each child has different needs and interests, and that you need to give them the space and time to nurture these interests – even if it means protecting them from the little hands of a younger sibling
  • Avoid arguments about sharing and turn-taking by making sure that there are enough blocks cars, dress-ups for everyone to enjoy
  • You need to spend one-on-one time with every child regularly. Never let your children feel that you don’t have enough time for them
  • Give each of your children a little space they can call their own
  • Let each child have his own special items that don’t have to be shared with siblings – this only works, though, if every child in the house understands what is and isn’t to be shared
  • Make sure that all your children are being catered for.
  • Never compare your children – and never, ever say ‘Why can’t you be more like your brother?’ because this will only ever lead to resentment
  • Be sure that everyone in the household understands the house rules and they are equitable. If a rule is broken, insure that the reprimands are equally dealt out
  • Try to teach your children strategies that will help them to learn how to problem-solve fairly
  • Be affectionate with all your children, regardless of age and sex

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This article was written by Ella Walsh for Kidspot. Sources include SA Government’s Parenting and Child Health, Raising Children Network and Vic. Govt’s Better Health Channel

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