My child is a bully
If your child often tries to explain away misdeeds with ‘We were just having fun …’, ‘She started it …’, ‘He made me … ’, ‘What? I didn’t do anything …’ you may just have a bully in the making living under your roof.
- You must act promptly to nip this behaviour in the bud and make your child understand very clearly that his behaviour is unacceptable and that you won’t tolerate it.
- You need to teach your child to manage and articulate his feelings in ways that don't hurt other people.
- You will also have to help him ‘unlearn’ bad habits - teach him other ways of behaving.
If your child is a bully, take a look at her home life and consider:
- The way you discipline your child – are you using bullying tactics yourself?
- The way you deal with conflict. Have you taught her effective problem-solving skills?
- The ways you communicate with your child. Are you positive or negative?
- Whether your child is anxious or frightened about her home life.
- The types and amount of TV/ games/ computer time she is experiencing? Is she being exposed to inappropriate or violent material?
Find more bullying solutions and information
- Helping when your child is bullied
- How bullies pick their victim
- My child is a bully
- What makes a bully
- What is bullying
- Bullying definitions
- Facts and figures about bullying
- Is your child being bullied
- How to deal with bullying
- What parents can do about bullying
- When your child is a bully, here's what to do
- How to talk about bullying and cyber bullying
- Cyber bullying: here's what it is and how to tackle it
- How parents can prevent bullying
- School policies on bullying
- 15 bully and cyber bully solutions
This article was written by Ella Walsh, for Kidspot, New Zealand's leading parenting and pregnancy resource. Sources include Bullying No Way , National Centre Against Bullying, Raising Children Network, Bullying Hurts brochure
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