Yelling at the kids
All families differ in the way they deal with conflict, anger and frustration amongst their members. There are households where you may never hear a raised voice ever, and there are those where excitement and shouting by all family members is a daily occurrence.
Which is the right way for the wellbeing of your child? Both or neither; depending on how it’s carried out. While calmness is generally reassuring for children, if there are undercurrents of tension as a result of unresolved arguments, this type of atmosphere can be extremely unsettling. Yelling – as opposed to general loudness - is harmful if what is said is personal and affects the way your child feels about himself, or makes him afraid or worried.
Talking in anger to your child is likely to affect his emotional development if, as a direct result of what you’ve said, he no longer feels you love him unconditionally or that he is safe and secure. Your child needs to feel your support and guidance, which will help him build the confidence to attempt new things and continue to grow in areas where he is already confident. If he feels anxious about being personally criticised or ridiculed, he will be less willing to takes chances.
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