Rules for dating my daughter - done right!
We’ve all seen the ‘Rules for dating my daughter’ t-shirts getting around. You know the ones? They’re usually a list of threats.
- Understand that I don’t like you
- Realise I am everywhere
- You hurt her, I hurt you
- Bring her home late, you better get a lawyer
- Whatever you do to her, I’ll do to you
- I don’t mind going back to prison
This was the way my own Dad treated boys. My male friends were terrified. No boy EVER called my house and I kept any boyfriends (newsflash Dad… there were boyfriends!) away from my house to save the embarrassment. I was mortified when my date turned up for the year 10 formal, only to have my Dad drag out his antique gun collection with a “just sayin” look in his eyes. Ugh.
Now I am the parent of a teenage daughter. Dating is on the horizon and I’m excited for her. Those ‘love interest’ butterfly days are so magical. Everything is so intense – the good and the bad. As much as I would love to shield her from the hurty bits, I can’t. Her Dad can’t either and getting all macho is only going to peeve her off if she is anything like her mother!
It is something that has been worrying me – how her Dad and her Step-Dad are going to be around the folk that come sniffing. As my little fairy child has blossomed into a clever-hilarious-surfing-skating-guitaring-supercute-teen I hear people jest, “Hope you’ve got a shotgun”.
Well, we don’t. What we DO have is a sassy, smart kid that isn’t going to put up with any crap and who knows that we have her back if she ever needs it… but thanks for asking.
So when I saw this share from kristine-clair on tumblr:
I did a little happy dance. That, fine sirs, is how you wear a ‘Rules for dating my daughter’ t-shirt.
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This article was written by Rebel Wylie for Kidspot.com.au and has been adapted for Kidspot.co.nz