Common fears in school children
By Ella Walsh |
Common fears in older kids

As your child gets older, you'll find that she will grow out of many of the fears that marked her toddler years - to be replaced by a more sophisticated brand of fear. Most will be rooted in the real world - death, getting lost, divorce of her parents, burglary, house fire - but some will remain in the imaginary world - ghosts, monsters that come out in the dark.

How can I help my child overcome her fears?


  • Listen to her and make sure that she knows that you are taking her fears seriously.
  • Don't lie to her. If she asks you tricky questions about war, death, or divorce, give her a truthful answer - you don't need to give her more information than she needs so don't elaborate if she's satisfied with a simple answer.
  • Don't indulge her fantasies by fighting with the monsters in her room - by doing this, you're actually telling her that you too believe that there are monsters in her bedroom.
  • With gentle guidance, encourage her to slowly face her fear - when she does eventually overcome her fear, she will feel as though she has achieved a great deal.
  • If locking the bedroom window, sleeping with a night-light, or crossing the road to avoid a dog allows her to deal with her fear, then let her make these choices.



Many children are frightened of things that we, as adults, struggle to understand. Whatever the fear - no matter how irrational - it is very real to your child so never make fun of her and don't force her to confront it if she's not ready to.


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This article was written by Ella Walsh for Kidspot . Sources include SA Government's Parenting and Child Health , Raising Children Network and Vic. Govt's Better Health Channel


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