Your child will have the greatest chance of success if he has some input into any treatment plan you devise to cure him of bed-wetting.
For most children who are still wetting the bed after the age of 6 or 7 years, there will be no magic pill that will solve this problem. Instead there will be some good nights followed by some bad nights. Hopefully the good will usually out-number the bad!
It can be helpful to keep a record chart of wet and dry nights that your child can design and fill in himself. Charts used on their own have little success, but in combination with a bed-wetting alarm they can be very useful. They are also a great way to keep track of what's happening - you may find that a pattern emerges, such as consistent bed-wetting on a Friday night when your child is over-tired.
Try to avoid using rewards as part of any treatment plan. While rewards are great if your child is starting to be dry at night, bed-wetting is ultimately out of his control (he is, after all, fast asleep when it happens) and so withholding a reward can actually seem more like a punishment. For most children, waking up in a dry bed is reward enough.
School camps and bed wetting:
If your child is a bed-wetter, he may become anxious when a school camp is scheduled because of the potential embarrassment, and try to avoid attending.
- Encourage him to participate - bed-wetting shouldn't stop him being involved.
- Discreetly discuss the situation with your child's teacher. This will not be the first - or last - time they have taken a bed-wetter on camp.
- Teachers usually have a clear plan of action, and once you know what this is, you can form some strategies with your child. It may help your child to know that his teacher already understands the situation, so that if he does wet the bed, he won't have to go into embarrassing explanations.
- You may consider using 'pull-ups' while he is at camp.
What not to do:
As frustrating as bed-wetting can be - the endless washing, the airing of smelly bedding, the stripping and remaking of beds - never punish, criticise, or make fun of your child.
Bed-wetting is beyond your child's control. No child wants to wake in the middle of the night wet and cold. He wants to be dry just as much as you do.